Ren
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Post by Ren on Feb 4, 2014 13:30:06 GMT -5
I have seen and experienced this problem time and time again. Parents who don't support the love of a woman and a woman. It's the main cause to why my ex and I broke up, because her overly Catholic parents found out and made us break up. What are your guys' stories? Hardships with parents? Opinions on the matter?
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Post by Deleted on Feb 4, 2014 15:42:55 GMT -5
I haven't talked to my mother in almost 3 years. Ironically she doesn't know I'm gay but we stopped talking for a similar reason. She doesn't like who I am. My mother is a strict Pentecostal and I can't tell how many times the word "possessed" and "demon" was used to refer to me because I did not behave like the femmine, bible memorizing church girl she wanted.Im a good kid, always was but that wasn't enough.I'm pretty sure my mom considered that I might be gay (the signs were there) but I didn't come out while living with her. My mother was abusive and it terrified me to think of what she would do to me if she found out. If you can't love your child for who they are (gay, queer, tomboy, goth, purple w/green spots, etc.) and NOT what you want them to be: DON HAVE KIDS! It's so sad when parents do that mess.I pray for those who have to deal with things like that.
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Post by justsamma on Feb 4, 2014 19:09:43 GMT -5
My girl grew up in a really Christian household. She went to bible college & the whole shabang.
She first came out at 22, but her parents didn't really warm up to the idea until after i came around [when she was 28-ish]& didn't meet me for over a year off us being together. Now my MIL runs a "Family members of people with same sex attraction" group & is super supportive.
I think it their case, it took time. It took them seeing that their daughter could and does love someone as much as they love one and other & that we lead pretty normal boring lives. I know that isn't the case for everyone, but I wish it were.
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Ren
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Post by Ren on Feb 4, 2014 20:02:59 GMT -5
I'm sorry to hear that in both of your cases. I had a great relationship torn apart by my ex-girlfriend's parents about a year in. We were really happy, but she couldn't tell her parents because the last time she had been in a relationship with a woman they had beaten her. Well, her mom had seen her phone light up while she was doing something and skimmed the message. A convenient text I had sent that said "I love you too, sweetie!" Or something of the sort. Her mom hit her, yelled, and I had to make the adult decision to break up with her before things got worse. I am still madly in love with this girl, but she is currently dating a boy. I don't think she will ever consider giving it another go.
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Ren
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Post by Ren on Feb 4, 2014 20:03:18 GMT -5
Ah, sorry, I didn't mean to go on a pity trip!
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Post by elliebelly on Feb 5, 2014 13:24:11 GMT -5
My mom is extremely catholic but also constantly claims she just wants me to be happy. She wishes I weren't gay so she could have normal daughter who marries a man and has kids, but she "loves me regardless" because she just wants me to be happy. She hates numerous other things I do too, like tattoos and piercings (because God made me the way I'm supposed to be). There's a ton of things that she's against but at the same time my mom is the sweetest person ever, and she supports me, but knowing she doesn't actually like my way of life is kind of upsetting.
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Post by Ren on Feb 5, 2014 16:00:58 GMT -5
That sounds very similar to my ex's mom. She supported gays and stuff, but her kids can't be gay.
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Post by xhannahbanana on Feb 5, 2014 16:50:17 GMT -5
my dad isn't supportive, though over the years since i came out he's gotten better with it. i've been out now for about 7 years. mom was supportive but she passed away a year ago.
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Post by Niccy on Feb 6, 2014 6:04:45 GMT -5
Mine are supportive and love my partner, but I will never get over the look on my mums face when she found out. It was like the traditional Scottish wedding, lots of kids and the whole 'family' thing went out the window.
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Post by ana on Feb 8, 2014 8:22:28 GMT -5
I'm extremely sad to hear that your parents aren't supportive to you all.. =(
I actually don't need to come out to my parents because they don't care. Three years ago, they brought me to the Gay Pride of NY and bought me this "Legalize Gay" tee-shirt. And I talk a lot about gay stuff, my gay friends, gay bars and all. They just don't give a fuck!
But my best friend's parents are like yours. And they hate me because they think I converted her.
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Post by writerchick on Feb 8, 2014 16:29:35 GMT -5
I actually just got up the courage to come out to my parents last week. My mom knew about it before, by things that I had said over the years, but she wasn't happy about it. My dad is still currently in denial. They're both pretty religious, and I think that that's part of the reason, because they won't see me in "heaven." My argument with that, is that God (if he does exist. Jury's still out on that one) wouldn't have made me this way if he would have cast me out of heaven for it. I think that my mom is mainly sad because she wanted to have more grandkids and stuff, but, she's been incredibly supportive throughout the whole thing. Which is a far cry from my father's reaction. He wanted me to go see a counselor or talk to a religious head. He also doesn't believe that it's not a choice. My mom talked some sense into him with that one though.  They don't know that I'm going to be dating yet though, because I don't think that they're ready to hear that yet. But, they'll warm up to it eventually. |
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