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Post by xmichele on Feb 15, 2014 4:40:42 GMT -5
Hi there 
So I am new to this forum, and I figured why not join, and (hopefully) make some friends and hey possibly something more.
Anyways, I have literally come out of a massive shit time. And I am finding it really hard to get back onto my feet. So I thought maybe you amazing people could help me out?
I was in a relationship with this girl that I had met at Uni. And to be honest it was the first time I had really fallen in love. She would say the most cheesiest things that I would thrive off like, you have my heart and that I have never been so in love before. She introduced me to her parents and it was pretty fucking cute. Anyways, I get an internship for a month overseas and by that stage we had been going strong for about half a year.
Two weeks in, she cheats on me saying its only a kiss. She skypes me the next day, tells me whilst crying. I am completely shattered. The once so perfect world falls apart. She says she want to go on a break. By this stage I am wanting to do anything to keep this relationship going, so I say ok. Whatever you need.
Fast forward till I am back in the city, she texts me to see her. She breaks up with me, saying I should be thankful she is breaking up with me cause normally she drags it out but she has enough respect for me ?! Then she says it was sex (which to me is a pretty important thing), then she says that she is so angry that she is the villain. ?! again what the actual fuck .
Anyways, I couldn't handle it. I stopped eating, drinking and got admitted to hospital where I got the biggest wake up call of my life.
I have been doing real well. Like really good you know.
But then, yesterday, I am walking to uni and I see her and I try to cross streets but she comes over, smiles and waves. then she crosses back and blows me a kiss. messages me saying she wants to see me.
And I know that I shouldn't. And I wont. But goddammit why cant she leave me along. Maybe she has realized how badly she fucked up. will I be happy again? |
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Post by singletunepoet on Feb 15, 2014 9:18:03 GMT -5
Yes! You will be happy again! If there´s one thing I´m certain bout then it´s that.
When that´ll be and how happiness will sneak into your life is what noone can say right now but it´ll do so eventually. Maybe tomorrow maybe next year, maybe YOU will be the person who makes your life a much happier one.
I guess what many will agree with is something you said yourself, too: DON´T go and see her!
I don´t know her and can only gather an idea of what kind of person she is by what you wrote about her and from reading this she is the kind of person who causes pain. She doesn´t seem like a serious, commited, honest or responsible person at all and you need a bit of all of these things in a relationship next to love, fun and adventure!
You deserve those, too. So my best advice at the momemt next to not going to see her would be not to force anything and let happiness and love cross your path when you least expect them to.
And be a best friend to yourself! Spoil yourself! It really helps. If you feel good, if your body feels good, your mind will follow! And it´s often when you´re like that love will come your way.
Message me if you want to talk!
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Post by lara on Feb 15, 2014 18:25:23 GMT -5
I totally agree : don't go see her ever again ! She only causes pain, and doesn't worth it What do you like the most ? I promise you that you will feel better doing something you like and that can't disappoint you. Go out with friends, read, do sports... But don't try to get another relationship to rebound, you will get hurt and hurt someone else... You may feel like this was the deepest love but you need to forget her and to remind yourself that you are wonderful and you deserve so much better ! Hope this help, don't worry we are here for you |
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Post by elliebelly on Feb 15, 2014 22:53:58 GMT -5
I wouldn't see her again- I think what you had was good and real, but once she cheated on you the relationship became different for her and the way she saw you/the relationship. It'll never be the same again. You've already gotten through the worst of it, and one day when you least expect it you're going to find someone new. Until then, don't worry about her, live for yourself and do what makes you happy. Give yourself some you time. If you want to talk/vent feel free to message(:
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Post by justsamma on Feb 16, 2014 18:05:38 GMT -5
I definitely wouldn't see her again. You need to take some time to heal, find some hobbies & eventually you will find another love.
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Post by xmichele on Feb 17, 2014 21:48:44 GMT -5
Yes! You will be happy again! If there´s one thing I´m certain bout then it´s that. When that´ll be and how happiness will sneak into your life is what noone can say right now but it´ll do so eventually. Maybe tomorrow maybe next year, maybe YOU will be the person who makes your life a much happier one. I guess what many will agree with is something you said yourself, too: DON´T go and see her! I don´t know her and can only gather an idea of what kind of person she is by what you wrote about her and from reading this she is the kind of person who causes pain. She doesn´t seem like a serious, commited, honest or responsible person at all and you need a bit of all of these things in a relationship next to love, fun and adventure! You deserve those, too. So my best advice at the momemt next to not going to see her would be not to force anything and let happiness and love cross your path when you least expect them to. And be a best friend to yourself! Spoil yourself! It really helps. If you feel good, if your body feels good, your mind will follow! And it´s often when you´re like that love will come your way. Message me if you want to talk! you are amazing! Thanks so much xx Yes I would love to chat !! |
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Post by xmichele on Feb 17, 2014 21:49:47 GMT -5
I totally agree : don't go see her ever again ! She only causes pain, and doesn't worth it What do you like the most ? I promise you that you will feel better doing something you like and that can't disappoint you. Go out with friends, read, do sports... But don't try to get another relationship to rebound, you will get hurt and hurt someone else... You may feel like this was the deepest love but you need to forget her and to remind yourself that you are wonderful and you deserve so much better ! Hope this help, don't worry we are here for you I have been hanging out a lot with friends which really helps. I guess time really heals all wounds
I am so happy to have joined this forum!
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Post by xmichele on Feb 17, 2014 21:50:48 GMT -5
I wouldn't see her again- I think what you had was good and real, but once she cheated on you the relationship became different for her and the way she saw you/the relationship. It'll never be the same again. You've already gotten through the worst of it, and one day when you least expect it you're going to find someone new. Until then, don't worry about her, live for yourself and do what makes you happy. Give yourself some you time. If you want to talk/vent feel free to message(: Yay awesome !
Yeah, I thought I might open myself up on here. Everyone is so supportive. I was in such a bad place !
Yes, so keen to talk. What do you do?
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